Parenting Tips: It’s Not About Being Tough, It’s About Being Kind
No matter how well children are raised, parents make mistakes. Knowingly or unknowingly, these also have their share in not getting rid of the ills of the society. No one is a perfect parent. No matter how much we think the world has changed, many problems remain the same in today’s male dominated world. Mainly, violence against girls! Boys are supposed to be tough, they should not cry, if girls are like this, it is good because the preconceived notions remain the same, only in this there has not been much change. So what needs to change? If moms- dads don’t have the mindset and patience to bring up their sons sensitively, the situation will always be the same! If so, how to raise boys (parenting tips)?
1. It has been believed since ages that boys are mentally stronger. If boys cry because of pain, if they cry because of boredom, let them cry, no problem. Remember that as mothers you should not say things like “You cry as a boy, boys shouldn’t cry, why are boys like girls?” Children, whether male or female, have feelings too. Just like laughing, joking, being naughty, teasing, crying too. stop crying And they also have the right to be light!
2. The game is good. However, just because he is a boy, he should not be forced to participate in games played by boys. Let them play their favorite game. If they don’t like the game, find out what interests them and encourage them. But, don’t be seen as a real man if you are out of the house and playing games.
3. Don’t think that only girls are sexually assaulted. It happens to boys too. So educate little boys in this matter as early as girls. Let them know about body parts, good touch, bad touch. It should not be neglected that only boys do not need to pay attention to such matters.
4. Let them open up about their fears. Boys have no fear. If you have thoughts like, ‘They are born brave’, tie it in a knot and keep it aside. Help them overcome their fear.
5. Remember that you have a duty and a great responsibility to raise the boys to be good citizens. Let us first realize that our sons should not be involved in any bad work in the society, they should not trouble anyone. So, it is essential to develop these qualities in them in education itself. Socializing with others, developing human qualities should all be incorporated in education.
6. It is not okay for boys to make jokes about their private parts. Remember, the pressure of what society wants from a man sexually is slowly inflicted through the plagues, leaving them to make mistakes.
7. Be careful not to suddenly change the love you show/show to your boys as soon as they reach puberty. If you think that when the boy grows up, he will no longer be able to hug and caress as a mother, remove it. The touch of human affection/caring is very important to humans. As they grow up, they also face many pressures and problems mentally and socially in the male world. When they need love, the comforting words of “A hug, I’m here” keep them from going down the wrong path. So, don’t deprive your sons of hugs.
8. Don’t repeat all the words about sons and daughters that one day you will grow up and your wife and children. They have their own choices, sexually and socially. Remember that such words put pressure on them to be what society wants them to be. Without feeling confident about their choices, they cannot openly share their real problems with you.
In order to get rid of violence against women, mental sexual violence and rape in the society, it is necessary to build a healthy society. The responsibility of building a better society is also in the hands of women. It is equally true that all mothers have the responsibility of teaching their daughters self-defense techniques as well as raising their sons to be good citizens!
